Because I Want To Play My Toys

Most kids love unconventional toys. Yvette loves them too. There are a few “toys” at home Yvette certainly play with them everyday.

This morning Yvette woke up after 12 hours sleep. I brought her to pee and she asked me, “Mummy what’s today?”

I told her is Monday and have to go school. After hearing my answer, she shook her head and replied, “no school!”. I was pretty surprised with her respond and reaction. I question her, “no school? I thought you like school?!”

She answered, ” because I want to play my toys!”

Since it was still early, I let her play while I bathed and dressed myself. Happily she dashed out of the bedroom and started playing.

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It is Time to Pen Down Her Thoughts

She been practicing. The credit goes to her two teachers in school. She would finish all worksheets given by her Chinese Teacher every once or bi-weekly.

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As such I feel it is time to move on. We went to her favorite shop, Popular after our dinner and we got her a little booklet. The purpose to get this is to encourage her to pen down her thoughts.

She is elated and very eager to kick off this project.

This is her first piece of work.

Narration – 100% her effort.
Grammar – We helped but I could tell she could manage some too.
Spelling is good try. 50% her effort.

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I missed out “drank”. (She did mention.)

Here’s my review.

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Time Out Corner Vs Naughty Corner

Happy New Year again although it is over.

It had been a good last 15 days for us. We had visited the River Hongbao 2012, Sentosa Flowers 2012, many visiting, and even watched Chingay 2012 (Live). Many good food – Yu Sheng my favourite which I get to toss for 5x.

My health has been well too. My cough is finally gone for good. I had hardly coughed much after I see a Respiratory Specialist. However, my weight is not really under control now. I suspected the steroid from the inhaler is acting on me.

Yvette went back to Music Class and Chinese Class on Saturday.

For D, he will sit for his first Exam on 18 Feb.

Everything is on the right track except we can feel hurricane is blowing toward us!

Hurricane? Horrible tantrum from Yvette for the past 2 days.

On Sunday, Stella came. Honestly, the kids had great time. Yvette can play very well with Velda and Zac now. Of course the fun trade off with her nap and then after they left, she became so cranky and bawling. Nothing can pacify her. She eventually stopped crying on the cab. (We need to go my mum’s place on Sunday evening.)

On the very night, she refused to sleep because of the late nap. No matter how I coaxed her, she simply “Bo Chap” me. Finally I carried her to her bed. She cried for another half an hour and then finally fell asleep.

This morning, there was another nightmare for me. But I am not the one that managed her tantrum this round. She was semi-conscious this morning when I dropped her off. However, I have forgotten her water bottle and I decided to make a trip back home for her. Before I left the school, she was already crying out loud. Both her English and Chinese Teacher tried to cajole her, again, no matter what; she simply refused to stop crying.

She was like crying for appox. 30 mins. Jumping up and down showing her unhappiness to her teachers as she howled.

Her teacher put her at “Time Out” Corner till she finally stopped crying. Her teachers didn’t give her back the bottle and she was given cup for the whole day. I applaud the teachers who are so willing to put in effort to discipline my naughty girl.

Perhaps some of you might feel that is perfectly normal. But to us, we really find it odd.

Yvette’s has been really emotionally well control ever since she turned three. We have hardly needed to deal with much meltdown. Seeing the continuity of 3 episodes of meltdown alarmed us. So we went to speak to both teachers today. We wanted to hear their opinions about change behavior from Yvette.

The Chinese Teacher shared with me indicating this will be another phase and we need to help Yvette to manage her emotion and expectation on us. The English Teacher suggested “Time Out Zone” for Yvette at home; So that when she was crying so badly, she can stay there to calm now before we talk about the incident again. (Of course both teachers shared much more that I have pen down here.)

After talking to Yvette and discussing, we feel it still good to have a Time Out Corner despite we have Naughty Corner at home.

Once we decided, we stressed to Yvette Time Out Corner will be completely different from Naughty Corner. In Time Out Corner, she can sit down and hug her bear bear. She can drink water, she can cry as long as she could. In Naughty Corner, she can’t sit down, can’t drink water. But both is all about asking her to “calm down so we can talk”.

Time-out teaches kids that their emotions and behaviours aren’t acceptable. Sometimes this may be true as it pertains to behaviour, but emotions are real and need to be respected. They also need to be regulated! Forced time-out is not an effective way to help a child regulate his or her emotion.

So once she cools down, we always talk to her. Both of us would sit down to talk to her. Making her understands what is right and what is wrong.

Apparently the episode ended up well tonight. Yvette didn’t misbehave and didn’t take very long to doze off. She was on the bed around 10.20 and dozed off 20 mins later. (My wish is Yvette could sleep at around 10 and up on 8 am. However I am contented if she could sleep by 11 and up at 8 am.)

I hope with more communication between us and together with the help from the teachers, we can resolve this problem and her sleeping habit effectively!

Yvette: 3 yrs. 8 Mths (44 Mths)

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*picture taken on 30/12/2011.

Instead of just learning the solar systems, Yvette could remember the sequence up to VY Canis Majoris. I have so much to share on this learning journey but I still can’t find time.

Instead doing story telling, she could remember scrip. Yes she loves to watch peppa pig and we do allow her to watch up to an hour daily (of course she doesn’t watch them every day.) The number of scrip she could recite is horribly unbelievable.

She loves to compose song and even her own story. Most don’s make sense but her effort is there. I hope she continue to imagine and finally one day she will love to pen down herself.

Instead of just being able to do P1 Maths, she could further explain the fundamental concept to us in her own view.

Instead of just reading, she often thinks out of the box. This is a good example.

Often we thought she can’t do it or she will not able to understand she could. As Of now, she has never fail to surprise us and exceed our expectation.

She could read time but limit to the digital clock. She is able to tell me mins and hours before and after. But I am still working with her on the hour and min hands clock.

She is able to follow routine that we set for her daily. (Sadly but still not the sleeping routine. Still we start to see some light after we really kicked start on the discipline method shared by my colleague.)

She has good penmanship for a 3 yo but she is still lazy to practice her handwriting at home.

She is able to remove dirty laundry from her school bag and throw them into the washing machine. She is able to pack her bag now too. However I am still encouraging her to put the stuffs in the bag. Still a little more effort is required.

Once she accepts the reason for change; she is able to adapt to it. She has no longer telling me “I want poo poo” and “I want wee wee” when she needs to answer her nature call. Instead she uses “I want pass urine” and “I want pass motion”. Her N2 teacher told her the before are meant for PG.

She certainly has learnt how to relate. It’s about the Peppa Pig again. We were in the topic of the States of USA and I told her D loves to see The Grand Canyon. However we need to drive there but both of us can’t drive. She pause and thinks and reply: “Mummy, Peppa Pig doesn’t drive!”

That’s her developments I could remember. She is 4 months shy to 4 yo. She is waiting for that day to come as she had already attended 2 birthday celebrations in class.

Some Tested and Untested Solutions For Discipline

Teaching her to treasure

I “threw” away Yvette’s board games yesterday in front of her. Instantly, she broken down and was crying really like a heart-broken little girl. I believe I have managed to teach her a “lesson” and hope she will remember and love her toys even more after this.

What had made me act in such manner? She had used her leg to step on the board games. Despite us giving her stern warning, she continued to test our patience. As such, I decided to give her a harsh punishment.

(I didn’t throw it away. Yes. I put them into a plastic bag with a bag of rubbish but then the rubbish chute was behind the wall. She didn’t see me pick up the board games from the rubbish and hide under my clothes when I walked into the house. However, I have no plan to give her back the games soon. Must wait for a few more months then I will find a reason to return her.)

A solution for her sleeping problem.

I shared my woe with my colleague and she shared with me what should I react when Yvette refuse to sleep at night. (In fact, for the past 3 nights, Yvette had been sleeping well. At least not later than 11.)

The solution is: – Don’t beat her. Don’t scold her. Don’t force her to sleep too. Ask her not to sleep. Let her stay up to 2-3 am in the morning and wakes her up at 7-8 am in the morning. Force her to school.

I think I will try that.

I think this method is exactly like starving the kid for a few days and make them love food.

Actually I shared this with a teacher today and she told me many parents are finding solutions to deal with kids that don’t sleep timely. Oh well, it is good to know I am not alone. Still I hope I can get this sleeping problem solve this year. I am really worried that she can’t wake up in the morning for BIG school.

Fitting Room

Does your child likes to play with fitting room?

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Yvette loves messing with fitting room. As such, I rarely shop with her. I don’t like the idea she pushes me out of the fitting room and stay in the room playing with my shoes and the clothing I am going to try. (I usually remove my shoes when I try on new clothing. Habit.)

Anyway, today we went out to Taka to shop and she pushed me out of the fitting room. After “screaming” at her a few time she finally unlocked the door. I was really worried that she would lock herself in. To counter this, I usually do let her open the door herself when we go toilet together. I also always teach her how to unlatch the door when both of us in the fitting room.

Still the idea of allowing her to play with the fitting room is not right. And thankfully we could show her an example today.

There was a little boy that locked himself in the fitting room and couldn’t open the door himself. He was crying really loudly. The security guard came to his rescue. Eventually it was the father who managed to pass the right instruction to the boy to unlatch the door. (The father climbed up the ladder that the security guard placed there.)

I brought Yvette there and it seemed she could understand the danger of having to stay in the fitting room herself. I hope she would remember and never mess with the fitting room anymore. (Yvette has not reached the stage of playing with the fitting room without me around.)

Looking For A Sleeping Solution

I am so surprise that my last post over finding a sleeping solution for Yvette was so long ago. This doesn’t mean I have already found a solution over this problem. In fact, this problem doesn’t really get so serious that triggers me to pen down a post. (I am going to register this in her 42 months development.)

I definitely can’t deny I am a failure for this department.

For the past few days, this problem blows up. She couldn’t sleep despite resting on the bed. And again, she never fails to create records. From time to time she tends to stretch her sleeping hours not by sleeping long but by sleeping later.

Yesterday, she was awake much later because the Chinese Class is over and I feel I could let her sleep longer. So she was up around 10 plus in the morning and didn’t take her usual nap. Usually if she didn’t sleep, she will doze off around 8 plus. Unfortunately it won’t last long, at 9 plus she will be up. (This situation happened twice already.) As such, after taking power nap, it did actually give her more energy. Adding on to predicament, a tantrum was set off on our way home and she cried for more than half an hour.

I don’t know how many of you will agree. I feel crying takes up a lot of energy from us and usually we will be tired after crying for a period of time. Sadly, this didn’t happen. It has stimulated Yvette’s active cell and she couldn’t sleep despite was on the bed since 10 plus at night and then at 11 plus she was still full of zip.

I got work up! I scolded her. Whacked her backside and punished her – standing at the naughty comer. The ordeal lasted till 12.30 midnight and I know she finally dozed off at close to 1 pm. (A second night over the past 3 days sleeping at 1 am.)

 Seriously I really don’t the reason on why she is not sleeping or she will take longer time to fall asleep compare to her friends in school. According to her teachers, nap time will start around 12 plus and Yvette will be the last child to nap. She will toss and turn for about an hour till her energy cell dies off. (That could last till an hour or more and Yvette will then nap around 1.45 to 2 pm. They will be up around 3.15 pm.)

Looking for a sleeping solution for Yvette has now again becomes the top of my list and I am going to do the following:

  1. Stop all the sweets and chocolate. Limit to 1 or 2 per 2-3 days. Sugar activates the hyperactive cell in toddler.
  2. Cut down milo or just give her milo without sugar.
  3. I have never given her Mango and Durian and no intention to give Banana and raisin in the evening.
  4. This is hard but will get hubby to try. It is hard to stop Yvette getting too excited over playing with us after dinner. I think we have to control her “happiness”.

If the above don’t work, perhaps we have to send her to sleep therapy.